I’m reading all of these end-of-the-decade round-ups with interest but when I see exercises that ask me to write down my own milestones from the last decade, I feel the urge to dig in my heals.

The last decade was one of the most challenging–if transformative–decades of my life so far. I lost the two family members that made me feel loved in the world. I was spat out on the other end of a job I thought would solve my financial problems and released friendships where I found myself again in the role of chronic over-giver. The first few years felt as though the ground kept moving and would never stop and the thought of looking back brings to mind the biblical story of Lot’s wife who looked back at Sodom and turned to salt.

The life I was living no longer has resonance for me. I’ve learned the lessons, healed and released what is done. Eyes to the front, thanks very much.

From this vantage point things are as good as they’ve ever been. I invested in coaching, did the internal work, launched a business on the cusp of its ninth successful year, wrote a book, had a son and have become the woman who is available to do what needs to be done to have her vision unfold, and to be seen for who she truly is in the process. Part of that is because I’m fixed firmly in the present, taking care to focus on what I truly desire moment by moment, following my internal wisdom and allowing the greatest plan for my life to unfold, now. It’s not always easy but I’m practicing, imperfectly, and I’m okay with that.

I’m also committed to making the next decade of my life unrecognizable from this one in the very best way. I can see a little bit ahead, but not too much because I’m also available to receive a new level of the miraculous? What about you? Have you given any thought to what you’d like life to look like in 2020 and beyond? I’d love to hear about it.