“I now realize that lives fall apart when they need to be rebuilt. Lives fall apart when the foundation upon which they were built needs to be relaid.” That quote is from one of my favorite spiritual teachers Iyanla Vanzant. I share it in my work as an Interior Design Business Coach.

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It’s such a powerful perspective because it makes sense. You don’t lay the foundation for a skyscraper in the same way you do a craftsman. If you’re asking for a different result in your life and business, especially if the scope is that big, you’re going to have to do more than knock down a wall. You’re probably going to have to clear the land.

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Many of the creatives I work with show up with the desire for more visibility and that requires we make shifts inside and out. Even though they’re a little nervous, they dive in. But inevitably, when the changes start in earnest, so do the nerves. Are you sure that “wall” should come down?

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When you’re in the process of seeing yourself differently, it won’t be perfect. You can’t change, perfectly. Even though you think perfection is possible, or that you can fake it until you make it, perfection is a construct. It’s impossible even in nature. When you’re moving from invisible to seen, you can’t unsee some things. That might be…messy.

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But when change is optional, when you’ve started the process because you think you want more, because you think something’s missing or you think it would be fun, you also think you can stop the process any time you like. When change is chosen, you think you can go back to doing things the way you used to, the way we’ve always done. But that’s not how growth works.

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Sure you can give up on your goal, for now. You might be able to stop change on the outside. But that doesn’t mean that little voice on the inside, the one that gave you the idea to be visible in the first place, is going to give up.

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Even if it does for a while, eventually life will create circumstances that force the change your soul was seeking. Then, like Vanzant says lives fall apart. Now, you will have to put yours back together, like it or not.

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The thing is if you know things need to shift, you don’t have to wait for an earthquake First name. You can start small, with a talk to an Interior Design Business Coach like me.